Breaking bread

The primary advantage of munches is that they are very available. Munches are usually available in many cities…even ones that are too small to have a public dungeon. For example, if you live in Redmond, WA (like me), you can meet your fellow kinksters at one of 2 munches that happen every month, without having to travel to Seattle. Also, munches are usually at a restaurant, or someone’s home, so there are lesser costs associated with participation. Some munches are even targeted specifically at Parents, and so they can bring their kids and not worry about getting a babysitter.

Munches are usually organized by individuals from the community, and are usually advertised as ‘events’ on FetLife. It’s also not unusual to find a munch listing on a more public channel like FaceBook. A typical munch attracts 10-30 people, and some of them lead to some kind of ‘after-party’ at a nearby dungeon.

Are munches good? You bet’cha! Munches are a great way to meet new people, and make friends (maybe even ending up with new play-partners or even romantic partners). However, there’s one aspect of munches that need to be kept in mind. While munch attendees typically wear regular clothing, making the event look just like a friendly-meeting, the munches are regular, and are therefore sometimes “known” to people who live in the area. This means that you might run into someone you know, and if they are informed, they might realize you are a member of the kink community. Ultimately, it’s not a major risk, and most people think the benefits outweigh this risk.

Interested? Visit your FetLife, and search for “munch”. I’m sure you’ll find one to your liking.

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